Ah vacation; a time to restore, rest, have fun, and enjoy something other than routine. I certainly did that on my most recent trip to Munich, Germany to attend Oktoberfest! It was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had and I didn’t want to leave. We got to experience one of the most popular experiences in the world, with a big group of close friend, and had the time of our lives. Believe me when I said it was the best…the proof is on the ‘gram!
But back to this…I get that “vacation remorse” is real (very real) and I think it’s a great sign that you got the most out of your vacation, but this time around that vacation remorse was the worst I’d ever experienced. I stayed up so late the night before fluttering between feelings of sadness and thoughts of leaving the hotel room at 1 a.m. to explore the city so I could soak it up till the very end. Has anyone else experienced that same intensity of travelers’ remorse? Maybe just me? Cool.
Anyway, in my sleepless state something clicked and I decided to stop whining about leaving and start thinking about WHY I was so upset. What was it about this trip that I felt absolutely distraught to leave? If you’re a natural over-analyzer like me, getting to this place of questioning is fairly easy. But if not, I definitely challenge you to ask yourself similar questions when you’re ruminating. Because what I realized was that I didn’t want to keep feeling sad once I got back home. I wanted to preserve the feeling or experience this trip had given me and find a way to incorporate it into my everyday life here if possible. I just didn’t want to feel like I was leaving something behind, instead I wanted to feel fulfilled. Ultimately, what I felt on this vacation was happy, content, a desire to explore and stay curious, and ultimately excited for life.
Now I know can’t recreate that same travel experience, but I know I can feel those same feels back home. This trip showed me that I needed to switch things up and let go of my routine. I learned what core values are important to me. And I realized that new adventures are on the horizon for me. Vacations have a way of making us question our routine at home by planting this desire for more adventure into our system. And I’m totally on board with that, like hell yeah. So it’s been almost 2 weeks since I’ve been back and what have I done so far to get that?
Honestly not a lot. I got back home and dove straight into work, birthdays, wedding showers, etc. It’s been a busy 2 weeks but it doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten that experience. I’ve done small things here and there, but today is the first day where it seems that I’m making moves. I’ve written out my intentions for the month even though we’re halfway through. And I’ve even written down some goals for 2018. I have ideas of what I need and want to do to become a self love guru in Dallas. I’m more clear than I’ve been before on what my passions are now and it’s all thanks to one late night whining sesh in Germany.
P.S. I’m not saying that every vacation needs to lead some dramatic epiphany. If you seek rest and relaxation, then I hope you truly feel restored afterwards; Lord knows we all need some R&R. But if a trip DOES tug on your heart strings, I challenge you to explore those feelings and keep these things in mind when it comes to travelers’ remorse…
how to handle those travel blues:
- Don’t be afraid to question your routine at home in a BIG way. I know that everyone gets caught up in their daily schedule; everyone in any working role around the entire world. Sometimes we question what we’re doing when we see other peoples lives; we start to compare and judge our current way of living. That’s the OPPOSITE of what I’m saying. Don’t question out of comparison; question because you know you’ll truly benefit from change. If you need to change up your day to day to bring in more value, then do that. Don’t question because you want what someone else has.
- Be curious beyond exploring your travel destination. Don’t forget to explore what’s changing with you as you travel to someplace new. Maybe you find you truly connect with that location, maybe you realize you want to be closer to family, maybe you feel this urge to travel alone. Whatever you learn from your trip, don’t just leave it behind in that place. Take it home with you and explore what it means; if it even means anything.
- Look to see if you can recreate that feeling at home. Maybe you’re like me and feel all sorts of sadness about the homecoming. Well, it doesn’t have to just end with the vacation. Who says real life can’t feel like vacay? Tap into what activities or experiences produce those same types of feelings (whatever they may be for you) and see how you can incorporate more of it day to day. And maybe it isn’t even about activities but more about your community. Do you need to reconnect with people? Do you need to find a new community?
And that’s a wrap on travelers’ remorse! While I never thought too much about it, I’m glad I had this epiphany and experienced what I did. And I hope it helps you if need be on your next adventure. I’d love to know where you’re traveling to next! Where are you going? Any suggestions on where I should travel to next?